Who is Your Hero?
I have lots of heroes. You can read about them all here: It Takes A Village. For this specific post, I'd like to talk about my biggest hero, my husband.
He was by my side through every doctor's appointment, through every test, and through every chemo session. The night after my port was put in, he again tucked me into bed and made sure I was comfortable. When I woke up screaming in excruciating pain, he was already out of bed by my side. He calmed me down enough to have a restful sleep for the rest of the night.
He was by my side when the chemo side effects kicked in, and he helped me through them. He was by my side when I was too weak to walk, and he held me up. On my weakest days, he held me up. He gave me hugs, and I would literally feel the strength leaving his body and coming into mine. On my worst days, when I wanted to swallow all of the pain killers and end everything so everyone could go back to their lives, he hid those pain killers, doling them out when necessary.
He was by my side while in the pre-op room, waiting for the mastectomy to start. He held my hand with tears in his eyes as they wheeled me out of the pre-op room and down to the operating room. He was holding my hand when I woke up in recovery. He changed the bandages at home. He drained the drain tubes. He made sure I was comfortable and well taken care of.
He is still at my side constantly. He may not go to every appointment with me anymore (they're all routine now, and he has his own medical appointments to go to), but I know he's with me in spirit. He goes to at least every other appointment these days; other people have graciously stepped in to take me for my weekday appointments. If you think you might be able to help with that, check out the calendar on LotsaHelpingHands. There are still dates in September and December that need to be filled.
What can I do to be more like Jimmy? Show more patience. When I see a need, jump in and help. Be more proactive about getting things done. Be more loving. Be strong. Be there for him when he needs it, even if he thinks he doesn't need it. Be kind. Do things that need to be done even if I don't feel like doing it, or even feel up to doing it. That's what he does. He is an amazing man.
He promised to love me in sickness and and health. No one ever anticipates the "in sickness" part. He kept his promise. ♡